Confidence and sexiness go hand in hand.  Some people naturally have it and others have to work at it.  What is considered sexy can vary depending on who you are talking to but there are a few things that we all agree on that are universally sexy and can give you the added boost you may need to tackle that job interview, meet the right person or close that deal.  Here are a few quick tips to boost your confidence and increase your sexy.

  1. Stand Up Straight: The quickest way to make yourself confident and sexy is to adjust your posture.  Slouching looks frumpy.  Standing, walking or sitting up straight gives the impression you are confident and put together. Try positioning your body with your chest out and your shoulders back.  It may be difficult at first but the more you get into the habit of good posture, the easier it will become.

  1. Eye contact: As they say, eyes are the window to the soul. Whether it’s your other half or the person you order your coffee from, look everyone you interact with in the eye. This draws people in and shows that you are confident.  It also allows you to connect with people on a deeper level.

  1. Fresh Breath: Everyone can agree that bad breath is not sexy.  Knowing your breath is bad can also affect your confidence. Brushing your teeth in the morning is a good start but let’s face it, that only lasts for so long.  Always, always have gum or mints on hand.  Stick with mint flavors that will neutralize bad breath and stay away from flavors like orange or strawberry.  Always chew sugar-free.

  1. Slow It Down: If you really think about it, erratic movements, fast walking and non-stop chattering is not sexy.  Try slowing down your movements and taking your time, especially when on a date.  It will make you appear more confident and poised.

  1. Good Conversation:  Showing you are genuinely interested in someone can make you instantly sexier.  The best way to do that is to ask open-ended questions, that is a question that requires more than a “yes” or “no” answer.  Questions like, “tell me more about that,” “how did you get interested in that,” allow the other person to open up to you.  Keep in mind, people always like to talk about themselves.

  1.  New Underwear: A few new sexy pairs of underwear can boost your confidence even if no one sees them.  Starting your day with a great base layer that keeps you comfortable and cool will give you the confidence to move throughout your day, with a little surprise for the person who gets to see them at the end of your day. Choose underwear in an unexpected color or print that you might not normally buy.  It is just as important to choose something comfortable so stick with natural botanical fibers like bamboo, cotton or modal.

  1. Dynamic Attractiveness:  We’ve all known someone who may not be classically attractive but are still sexy in the way they act or present themselves.   According to Psychology Today, this is the way we express our emotions and our underlying personality.  Try employing an upbeat attitude, smile and be expressive with your face and eyes. This helps build charisma and draws others in.

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